Use compassionate listening when someone is struggling. Maybe their spouse had a mental breakdown, their mother is dying or their child is addicted to drugs. All you do is listen. You don’t have to say anything. You don’t have to think of the next great thing to say. You simply focus on them.Read More
Listening is a critical leadership skill. Listening creates connections, and connections allow us to relate to others. The most effective leaders have deep connections with the people around them and can easily talk to them about challenging or difficult topics.Read More
How often do you have to repeat a question because you didn’t listen to the answer the first time you asked?
Do you ever space out in meetings because you are thinking about dinner, carpools, and errands?
When was the last time you insisted to your spouse that he or she never told you something, but in truth, you just weren’t paying attention?Read More
All day long, you get to pick whether you are in a good mood or a bad mood. You also get to pick who are you going to spend your time with.
This may sound obvious, but your mood and the moods of others have a huge impact on you as a leader. I know some leaders who avoid talking to certain people – even lucrative clients – because they know what they’re going to get – a negative attitude and nonstop complaining.Read More
I have been working on 360 reviews with clients lately. Some find the feedback incredibly useful and are genuinely excited to hear what their colleagues say about their leadership skills. They see it as a gift. Others do everything in their power to prove that the review does not reflect the truth.Read More
We are trapped in a belief system that states we must do more in order to be better. It’s a badge of honor to say, “I worked a 60-hour week.” Or, “I haven’t taken a proper vacation in three years.”Read More
Can you do nothing? Niksen, you see, is a Dutch term that means doing nothing. If you are like most of my clients, you cannot fathom doing nothing.Read More
It is incredibly powerful to see displays of empathy and compassion. It is even more powerful when we are the ones showing empathy and compassion to those we work with, live with and play with. It will change their lives – and yours.Read More
Instead of only focusing on others this month – buying them flowers, giving them valentines, making them feel special – turn some of that attention inward. Love yourself, invest in yourself and work to increase your self-regard.Read More
It is proven that an accountability partner can help you achieve your goals – but not only for the reason you think.Read More
Can a single word have a powerful impact on your life? Yes, absolutely, which is why I encourage my clients to choose a Word of the Year every January.Read More
I just had lunch with a former client who admitted he is completely overwhelmed with the holidays, work, family obligations, geopolitical issues, etc. He asked for advice on how to overcome this feeling of exhaustion, and I suggested reading books on personal and professional development.
“Even if you read one book a month and or read one segment of one book each month, it will help,” I told him.Read More