5 Ways to Be Happier – And More Successful

What does happiness have to do with success? As it turns out, a lot – 75%, to be exact. That’s because the dopamine that floods your brain when you’re happy also turns on all the learning centers in your brain.  Thus, happiness breeds success.

According to Shawn Achor, author of the international bestseller, The Happiness Advantage, and a leading expert on the connection between happiness and success, your brain is not only open to learning when you’re happy, but you actually perform better when you’re happy – your energy level, creativity, and productivity all increase.

In my last blog post, I shared Achor’s 3 criteria for success – optimism, social support, and the ability to see stress as a challenge rather than a threat. Raising your level of optimism to increase your happiness requires you to rewire your brain.

Despite what it may sound like, rewiring your brain is not hard. Simply do the following 5 things every day for 21 days:

3 gratitudes: Write down 3 new things you are grateful for each day, and you will automatically look for the positive, not the negative.

Journaling: Journal each day about 1 positive experience you had that day, and your brain will relive it, adding to your feeling of happiness.

Exercise: As you work out every day, you will teach your brain that your behavior matters.

Meditation: Meditating daily will help you overcome the ADHD society we live in, allowing  you to focus on one task at a time.

Random acts of kindness: Each morning when you open your email, send a short, positive message to someone in your network.

Achor says that if you do these activities, you will work more optimistically and successfully. With scientific backing to support his ideas, it is worthwhile to start them today. Select at least one you can commit to and work towards your 75%.  Good luck!

The New Formula for Success

 As a leader responsible for an organization’s success, one thing that is always in the back of your mind is how to improve performance at work – your own performance and your employees’ performance.

The answer lies in psychology, specifically positive psychology, and one of the best people to learn about improving performance at work is Shawn Achor, author of the international bestseller, The Happiness Advantage, and a leading expert on the connection between happiness and success.

During his TEDx Talk in 2011 (which is very funny and worth watching), he said that if you change the lens, you change the reality.  What he means by that is if you change the way you look at the world, you can shape your success, because 90% of our happiness level is predicted by how we look at the world.

Achor says that right now, the accepted formula for happiness and success is backwards. We think that if we work harder, we will be more successful, and if we are more successful, we will be happier.  But this is wrong for 2 reasons:

  1. Every time we achieve success, we change the goal posts for success.
  2. By constantly changing what we consider successful, we will never reach happiness.

We need to completely change what we consider success, and the first step is understand that 75% of our success relies on our:

  1. Optimism levels
  2. Social support
  3. Ability to see stress as a challenge rather than a threat

In my next post, I will share Achor’s formula for changing our happiness levels. Till then, spend 15 minutes writing down how can you improve each of the above 3 elements.

3 Ways to Build a Career You Love

 

In my previous blog post, I gave an overview of author and Georgetown University professor Cal Newport’s new book, So Good They Can’t Ignore You: Why Skills Trump Passion in the Quest for Work You Love, in which he argues why skills really do trump passion.

 

 

In this article, he says:

“there’s little evidence that most people have pre-existing passions that can be transformed into a career…. Instead of daydreaming about what else is out there, turn your attention toward getting the most out of what you have now. Aim to cultivate passion, not follow it.”

Newport provided 3 strategies that anyone – at any point in their career – can follow to build a career they love:

Focus on what you offer your job, not what your job offers you

Competence in a job or skill gives you more freedom over what you do and how you do it.  Ask yourself, “How do I get better?” to put yourself on the path to a compelling career.

Leverage your value

Once you have gained competency and autonomy in a job – and are therefore valuable to your organization – you can leverage that value to move closer to your dream lifestyle. Though it can be hard, be patient as you build your skills and be ready to take advantage of your value once you have earned it.

Seek flexibility, not specificity

When you are choosing between positions or deciding whether or not to leave  a current position, prioritize flexibility. Ask yourself, “Will this job offer me interesting options if I start to become really good at what I do?” This ensures you won’t focus on specifics of the job, which will change, but rather on the flexibility you will have to create your dream job.

Why it is More than Following Your Passion

 

 

 

 

 

 

According to author and Georgetown University professor Cal Newport, following your passion is bad advice. In his new book, So Good They Can’t Ignore You: Why Skills Trump Passion in the Quest for Work You Love, he makes a good argument for why skills really do trump passion.

Newport says that

“…preexisting passions are rare and have little to do with how most people end up loving their work…. [The advice to follow your passion] can also be dangerous, leading to anxiety and chronic job hopping.”

After spending time with people who love their jobs – from organic farmers to freelance computer programmers – Newport details what they did to develop their careers – and what mistakes they made along the way.

“Matching your job to a preexisting passion does not matter…. Passion comes after you put in the hard work to become excellent at something valuable, not before. In other words, what you do for a living is much less important than how you do it.”

So, what do you need to do to develop a career you love?

  1. Master a difficult, valuable skill
  2. Build career capital – skills, relationships, and a body of work
  3. Develop a craftsman mindset – look inside and ask what you can offer the world
  4. Take small steps to expand your capabilities

Once you open up your options and better understand what you really like to do (and are good at doing!), you can create a career that you are passionate about.

How Can You Be Happy At Home And Live A Life Of Integrity?

In my previous blog post, I recounted how Harvard Business School’s (HBS) 2010 graduating class asked Professor Clay Christensen to speak to them about how to apply his principles and thinking around developing new technologies and building new growth businesses to their personal lives.

He asks his students to use the same techniques they learned in class to form answers to three questions:

  1. How can I be sure that I’ll be happy in my career?
  2. How can I be sure that my relationships with my spouse and my family become an enduring source of happiness?
  3. How can I be sure I’ll stay out of jail?

My previous post helped you answer the first question; let’s move on the second and third.

How can I be sure that my relationships with my spouse and my family become an enduring source of happiness?

Prof. Christensen said you must create a strategy for your life, just as a company creates a long-term strategy for its own success.  How do you want to spend your time, talents, and energy?

Think of all the aspects of your life that demand those 3 resources: your spouse, kids, hobbies, sports, friends, family, career, etc. Just as a company has a limited amount of time, energy and talent, so do you.

Create a schedule that allocates your time, energy, and talent to each aspect of your life to ensure you keep your life balanced, healthy, and fulfilling.

How can I be sure I’ll stay out of jail? Or, how can I live a life of integrity?

In our personal lives, we often make excuses when we choose between right and wrong. We say, “I know this is against the rules, but if I do it just this once, it’ll be OK.” The consequences of doing something wrong “just this once” are ignored, and it can become a slippery slope.

As Prof. Christensen said, it’s easier to hold to your principles 100% of the time than it is to hold to them 98% of the time. Think about yourself what you stand for from an ethical and moral standpoint. Jot them down and then create rules for your life around your principles. Read over your rules once a week to keep them top-of-mind.

An experienced and certified coach can help you make the time to answer these questions and create your schedule to better allocate your time, energy and talent.  Winning Ways offers assessments that identify your top values and helps you understand how to use the information to hold to your principles 100% of the time.  Call to find out more.

How Can You be Happy In Your Career?

In 2010, Harvard Business School’s graduating class asked Professor Clay Christensen to speak to them about how to apply his principles and thinking around developing new technologies and building new growth businesses to their personal lives. In response, he shared with them a set of guidelines that have helped him find meaning in his own life.

 

 

First he explained that on the last day of class, he asks his studens to use the same techniques they learned in class to form answers to three questions:

  1. How can I be sure that I’ll be happy in my career?
  2. How can I be sure that my relationships with my spouse and my family become an enduring source of happiness?
  3. How can I be sure I’ll stay out of jail?

These are tough questions to answer, including the 3rd one, which on its surface, is quite funny.  However, considering that 2 of the 32 people in Prof. Christensen’s Rhodes scholar class spent time in jail and that Jeff Skilling of Enron was a classmate of his at HBS, well, you get the picture.

How can I be sure that I’ll be happy in my career?

Remember that finding happiness in your career has nothing to do with money and everything to do with the opportunity to learn, grow in responsibilities, contribute to others, and be recognized for achievements.

As Prof. Christensen explained, “Management is the most noble of professions if it’s practiced well. No other occupation offers as many ways to help others learn and grow, take responsibility and be recognized for achievement, and contribute to the success of a team.”

Spend 10 or 15 minutes jotting down all the ways you can maximize your happiness at work.  What is something new you’d like to learn? What project would you like to take on? How can you help others within your organization? How can your supervisor better recognize your hard work?

Then distribute those questions to your employees or direct reports.  Their answers can guide you to become a more effective leader.

In my next post, we’ll focus on the second and third questions.

8 Elements of Running Productive Meetings

One hallmark of effective leaders is their ability to run productive meetings, a.k.a meetings that connect people and ideas and are informative.

To ensure your meetings make a team even more cohesive and produce action items to further a program or project, here is a checklist to keep you on track:

 

1. Clear objective: make sure your meeting has one or two goals, and that all attendees are informed of them.

2. Circulate an agenda: to keep a meeting focused, share an agenda so attendees know what to expect and how they can contribute.

3. Discuss new items: don’t rehash old business or topics if everyone is already well-versed in them; focus on new topics that are forward-looking.

4. Stick to the agenda: it can be hard to keep discussions on focused, so if a conversation veers off onto a new topic, offer to discuss it offline, after the meeting.

5. Keep your eye on the clock: be respectful of everyone’s time by starting and stopping your meetings on time.

6. Encourage interaction: ask for and encourage questions, comments, and ideas throughout the meeting to keep everyone involved.

7. Avoid being repetitive: share a thought or idea once, and move on. If a meeting attendee keeps repeating himself, gently cut him off to move on to the next topic.  If someone arrives late, don’t repeat everything they missed; instead, offer to bring them up to speed after the meeting.

8. Confirm action items: before the meeting adjourns, briefly review all action items, who is responsible for them, and when they are due.  In doing so, you will be reminding attendees that their time was well spent.

3 Steps to Becoming a Confident Leader

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

No matter how confident and successful the leader, they occasionally doubt themselves.  Have you ever thought:

• I did the wrong thing

• I shouldn’t say anything

• They’re going to disagree with me

If you have, you are not alone. Those doubts often creep in when you start worrying about the worst possible outcome.  It is important to remember that confidence comes from caring enough to make tough decisions and being cognizant of what the various outcomes could be – but letting go of the worries.

To build and reinforce your confidence when you are worried, here are 3 simple things to do:

 Listen to yourself

Trust yourself enough to act on not only what you feel, but what you know. By the time you are ready to make a big decision, you have done the research, weighed the pros and cons, and investigated the various outcomes.

Analyze your thoughts

Think about if any of your doubts are even true – or likely to happen.  If you worry about speaking up or trying out an entire new way of doing something, how likely is your message or new process going to be rejected?

Confirm your expectations

Put a plan in place around what you are going to say and how you are going to handle the situation when it comes time to make the big decision.  Once you are mentally prepared, you will be able to handle whatever comes up with confidence.

The 7 Ways of Leading – and How to Improve Your Skills

A successful leader is not afraid of change.  He or she is comfortable taking risks and making the big and small operational and organizational changes that will increase profits, expand market share, and even transform an industry.

Understanding the unique strengths necessary to be a successful leader begins with understanding how you interpret your own and others’ behavior and how you maintain power or protect against threats. There are 7 ways of leading, all with their own strengths and weaknesses:

Opportunist: Good in emergencies and pursuing sales, but so focused on winning in any way possible that few people will follow them over the long-term.

Diplomat: Good at keeping a team together and on track, but avoids conflict, thus making him or her unable to provide harsh feedback or make difficult decisions.

Expert: Good as an individual contributor, but relies on logic, numbers, and expertise and lacks emotional intelligence.

Achiever: Good at meeting strategic goals, managing others, and working on a team, but lacks the creativity to develop long-term strategic plans.

Individualist: Good in highly innovative and creative industries, but ignores inconvenient rules, processes, and people in order to complete projects.

Strategist: Good at generating organizational and personal change, collaborating, integrating their vision with the pragmatic steps needed to get there, and challenging the status quo.  As a leader, no weaknesses.

Alchemist: Good at generating social transformations and reinventing organizations in historically significant ways.  As a leader, no weaknesses.

One of the most effective ways to develop the skills of a strategist is by establishing a mentorship group with people in your network, such as board members, executives, and industry leaders.  By challenging each others’ assumptions and practices, you will all develop into stronger leaders.

10 Ways We Make Decisions

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Did you know there are three distinct styles of decision-making?  While we generally use all three ways, most of us have a preference for one over the other two.  Understanding these styles is highly useful, especially when working with others on a project or program, for decision-making will inevitably be part of the process.

The three styles are personal, practical, and analytical.

  1. Personal: focuses on the needs of the team members and how to best use their talents
  2. Practical: focuses on just getting it done
  3. Analytical: focuses on getting it done correctly

Making decisions goes beyond styles, however.  There are seven motivational factors involved as well:

  1. The motivation to achieve balance, harmony, and find form or beauty
  2. The motivation to be financially secure
  3. The motivation to be seen as unique, independent, and stand apart from the crowd
  4. The motivation to have influence and control over one’s environment or success
  5. The motivation to benefit others in a humanitarian sense
  6. The motivation to establish order, routine, and structure
  7. The motivation to gain knowledge or discover truth

Now that you understand the 3 decision-making styles and the 7 reasons we make the decisions we do, you’re better able to understand your team members – and that is key to good communication, teamwork, and your ability to manage.

To help everyone on your team benefit from this information, share it, and your team will realize long-term and sustainable results.

Good communication starts with understanding how you communicate and how your team communicates.  If you would like to learn more about your communication style and what is you key motivator contact us.  We offer short online assessments that will give you research validated insight.